Monday, June 22, 2009

You don't belong here

In the past year, I have been lucky enough to read a few books and see a few movies that really affected me.

As Canadians, we are so accustomed to the rule of law, that reading about or watching a story in which the rule of law doesn't necessarily factor in the equation is quite unsettling. One of the best aspects of traveling is getting to acquaint yourself with cultures that differ from your own. But how far from your comfort zone can you drift? The restrictions are not always external to yourself.

The Places in Between - Rory Stewart - Afghanistan
Three Cups of Tea - Greg Mortenson - Pakistan
Sahara Unveiled - William Langewiesche - Northern Africa
The Kite Runner - Khaled-Hosseini - Afghanistan (book/movie)
Slumdog Millionaire - Mumbai, India (movie)
I have been lucky enough to travel in Europe, Eastern Europe, the Middle East, Northern Africa and parts of the Caribbean. But in each case, I was always covered by a larger rule-of-law. I could put myself in stupid or dangerous situations, but in the back of my mind, I could always assume that the some sort of legal standard would apply, should I get myself in a real fix.

What has been fascinating about the Afghanistan, Pakistan and Sahara books is the concept of tribal law. Your safety is basically only as good as your connections. In Afghanistan, Rory Stewart successfully walked across the country after the fall of the Taliban. No central government (is there one now?), his letters of introduction good for about 2-3 days walk tops. He spoke a few of the languages (Dari and Urdu, but not Pashto). Like walking a minefield.

In Pakistan, Greg Mortenson has been building small schools in tiny villages. He learned very early on that he had to almost become a 'local' (and learn the language) in order to be able to help these people. Connections are everything. You can't fly in a helicopter, build a school and take off. The building would be razed within a week.

In Northern Africa, William Langewiesche spent months in buses and various forms of local transport, trying to get to places that few foreigners ever visit. Country and tribal borders took days to negotiate.

Every time I see images of Afghanistan, I want to go there and wander about. That is so naive. One can wander about Europe. I am about to embark on a trip that will allow me to wander about New Zealand. I even hope to get to South Africa, Botswana and Egypt. In Botswana, I'll have a friend with local connections and I might get outside the basic tourist zones. Realistically, I don't have the travel savvy or 'lets be buddies' personality to wander my way across a country in which there is not a strong central form of government.

Many of us are armchairs travelers. The reality of traveling in foreign countries can be damn uncomfortable. What struck me about the books above is how each person describes situations that they are in, and many of them would make a body physically uncomfortable, but it's the inherent or implied danger that is getting written about. The physical discomfort is a given. Extreme heat, lack of water, inconsistent food, bad health. Standard fare if you want to travel in these areas.

I am heading out on a nice, extended trip and expect to be uncomfortable at any given time and perhaps for long periods of time. Am I willing to be more uncomfortable than that? Never really thought about that until I read these books. So naive.

My desire to visit a place like Afghanistan has not diminished. What has changed is the rose-colored glasses. I now see it as a place that I don't have the skill-set or mindframe to be even to contemplate a visit. That may change. My mind is open.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Life in the slow lane

I left the career job almost 2 months ago. So, how is it going? Is not working a full-time cubicle job all it's cracked up to be?

You bet!

I realize that this is a unique time in my life. In a few short weeks, I'll be living in B.C. and hopefully getting around to being productive again. After a few weeks of visiting friends and relatives, I'll start chasing down some Wwoofing farms to work on. In September, it's on to New Zealand and hopefully 6 months of travelling. After that, I guess I start another career. Still have to put food on the table.

I am really enjoying this half-speed life that I am living. I'm busy everyday, but realistically only for a few hours. That still leaves a lot of uncharted time to deal with.

Is there any guilt? None whatsoever. My only real concern is the complete lack of routine and the loss of some healthy habits. I haven't stretched since I left Dal. My back tells me everyday, all day, that stretching is required. It will win out in the end, but for now, sloth rules.

Unless life interrupts, this is my daily routine

- Sleep in a bit
- Drink coffee, read paper, read email and online news
- Maybe watch a bit of Comedy Central and Colbert Report
- Work on house or travel to-do list
- Run errands (literally)
- Have a bath, beer and nap in late afternoon (So relaxing)
- Cheap, healthy supper (salads, pasta)
- Get in some reading or computer work
- Bed early (some things just don't change)

I'm really in no hurry for this phase to end. That being said, I am getting itchy feet and really looking forward to stepping out the door with my little knapsack and heading off for some sort of adventure for the rest of the year.

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Sit Shiva

I just spent the last 2 weeks at my mother-in-law's, the first week providing support as her husband died, the second week being the funeral and shiva. The process from the moment of death was a unique way to deal with death in the family and community. Being there when someone passes naturally is also quite the experience. It is as peaceful as it is sad. Once death is confirmed, a special group from the Schule comes and cleans up the body and places it in a bag and transports it to the chapel. In most circumstances, the body is in the ground within a day. In this case, it was just coming up on shabbat, so the whole process is delayed a day. You would think that this would give people more time to get to the funeral, but of course, you can't travel on the sabbath as well.

The funeral was well-attended. The rabbi spoke, as did his son. My brother-in-law spoke and so did my daughter (representing all the grand-kids). The casket was a plain wooden box and it was placed in the ground and covered immediately by the pall-bearers. All in all, a very quick, efficient yet very personal process.

For the next 7 days, the family sits Shiva, as an amazing number of people drop into the house to pay their respects. This starts as early as 7:00 AM and goes as late as 10:00 PM. Lots of crying and story-telling. A very cathartic process.